Become a "Perfect 10"

How many times have you heard the phrase "S/he's a perfect 10!" uttered? If you've heard it as many times as I have, then you've lost count. It's easy to become consumed with looking a certain way. Generally speaking, females and males are "supposed" to look impeccable. On the flip side, what's important is who a person is internally. Looks go away over time, but one's character remains.

Has it occurred, to you, why people honestly focus on external qualities more than internal ones? Here's an answer I've speculated for quite some time: it's what they know! Think about it. Superficial qualities don't require much thought and they can serve as bandages for other issues. The internal qualities require more maintenance. Many people don't have a good grasp of who they are until their late 20s. Even then, people change over time. How are you supposed to know who you are if you keep changing?! Wow! That can give someone a headache just thinking about it.

Look, I don't have all the answers; I do know that if you desire to become a "Perfect 10," then a change in mindset needs to happen.You need to start understanding who you are on a continual basis. If you don't keep up with yourself, then how can you expect anyone else to?

Recently, I read a book titled What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard N. Bolles. At the end of chapter 5, he proposed a simple exercise. I will call it the "Perfect 10" exercise.

Here's how to become a "Perfect 10"! Keep a running list of the 10 things:
I want to have
I want to do
I want to learn
I want to give

After you complete the exercise, carry your responses with you wherever you go. Update your list as often as you would like. It will help you to see how you evolve overtime. Remember, becoming a "Perfect 10" isn't about looking a certain way. It's about knowing who you are and where you stand in life. Once you know who you are, don't let anyone take it away from you.