(In)Dependent

"If you want to survive in this world, you can't depend on others. You have to rely on yourself." "I don't understand why I received a poor grade on the group project. I put in more than my fair share." "I am only one person. What I do or say won't impact the lives of others." Do these statements sound familiar (whether you've uttered them or know of someone who does)? 

I will admit that I have said the first two statements above. Many times, if I depend on someone to make something happen, they will almost always disappoint me. Whether it's a little or life changing favor, it seems that delivering the favor is not a priority. How can I possibly be dependent on other people when they don't want to meet high expectations?!?

The other night, I thought about my need for independence. Out of no where, it hit me. There is no way I can be independent without being dependent! Think about it: I can't eat produce unless farmers harvest the crops, go shopping for clothes unless someone makes them, or drive a reliable car unless a reliable mechanic fixes it. Why didn't it hit me sooner?

This revelation changed my perspective on what it means to be independent. I can be independent in conducting research, but I cannot conduct research without being taught how to do so. I am able to drive a car alone, but I am dependent on oil and gas companies to provide the fuel for my car. Do you see where I am going with this? 

It is impossible to be an independent person without being dependent to some degree. I have had to learn that it is okay to trust and not be completely independent. I can still be assertive, but I now understand my boundaries. If you struggle with your need to be completely independent, then ask yourself if you could survive a week without anyone else.